Do you let your identity be defined by other peoples opinions?

As social creatures, we naturally crave connection with others and therefore want to be accepted. However, a significant part of our identity can become intertwined with how others view us. We hear phrases like "You're so smart" or "You're always so helpful," and over time, these remarks seep into our self-concept. The challenge arises when we look for change or aspire to become someone else; it disrupts the identity we've built, and we begin to wonder, "What will others say if I make this change?”

But what happens when you want to transform? To become the person you aspire to be means showing up differently, and this shift does not go unnoticed by others.

This is the reason why many of us never chase our dreams or follow our true desires, especially when those around us have already formed specific opinions about us. Perhaps you're known as the family comedian or the person who constantly prioritises others.

For me, this hesitation held me back often in the past. When I started my coaching business, I hesitated to establish a social media presence. I had never been one to post pictures online or share things, but I realised that to grow my business and change lives, a digital presence was essential. I felt excited about the idea and confident in my abilities, so what was holding me back?

It was the fear of what others would think about this change. I feared that my decision to use social media in this way would raise questions and curiosity.

This fear shows us in many areas of our lives and can be something small.

Maybe there was a time where you wanted to try out new clothes or update your appearance, but there was a thought in the back of your head: "What will they think?"

The turning point for me was getting absolutely clear about WHY I wanted to create my social media account. I wanted to grow my business so I could help people transform peoples lives. My vision was so powerful that it overshadowed my fear of what others might think. My WHY became the driving force that helped me overcome my apprehensions.

Life is too short to allow the opinions of others to hold you back from pursuing what you truly desire. Whether it's adjusting your style to reflect an internal change or taking a courageous step forward in your career, seize it. 

Your WHY has the power to be the driving force behind your aspirations. Today, choose one thing that you've refrained from doing because of others' opinions. Discover your deep-seated reason for wanting to pursue it, and make it a habit to remind yourself of your WHY whenever those nagging doubts arise.